You don’t need to shut everything down. You just need to control it.
When I had my biggest downfall, I closed all of my social media accounts because I find some posts toxic. I blocked some people in my contacts list because I can’t digest looking at them even for a millisecond. It somehow worked but at the back of my mind, I know that what I did was for short-term.
As I sit in this coffee shop, I asked myself: How can I really live a happy life?
Well, here’s what I have learned and I want to share it with you.
- Live life.
Plain and simple reminder, live life. Live life without expecting anything. Appreciate the surprises of life that shall come — good or bad —
2. Don’t try control the impossible, learn to control yourself first.
You can’t control the moon to just light upon you. You can’t control the wind to stop when you’re feeling cold. You don’t have the power to stop the rain when you’re at the beach with your friends. There are things the happen involuntarily, let it. What you can control is yourself, you have full authority over yourself, maximize it. If you can’t stop the wind, find a sweater to help you with the weather. If you think your room is dark, buy a new light. If rain ruins your trip, stay in bed and talk about silly things with your friends. There is gold even in the ordinariness of life.
3. Accept your flaws
Me? I’m not a demi-god with what I do. But I do it anyway, because at the end of the day, I know the it’s me that will benefit from what I love doing. The process of accepting ones flaw is hard, I’m telling you, it’s really difficult. But after that process, after you have evaluated yourself, you’ll love yourself even more.
4. If you have checked #3, remember that no one is allowed to tell you that you’re not good enough.
You can’t please the whole world, however you can block immediately those who think so highly of themselves. You don’t need them to be with you every step of the way. If you can’t get rid of them, use them as a tool to motivate yourself.
5. Don’t be sad over the things the slipped away.
Don’t be stuck thinking of how your life would be if you did not let go of what you let go. Move on to the next chapter of your life. Again, this is not easy. I always say this to myself: Trust the process
